Prompted by a comment left by the lovely girl with the pink teacup, today I thought I would discuss with you why fucking a boy with a strap-on is one of my very favourite ways to make love. And for my opinions on love-making, please see here.
I am sure that when most people visualise a woman fucking a man with a strap-on, they picture some amazonian dominatrix and a weedy little man bent over something. But that is not the way. Not the way at all. Well maybe for the unenlightened.
And I haven't always included this particular activity in my list of favourites. There was a time when I too thought it was all about bending him over and sticking something up his arse. However, one night at a party, I had to fulfill a promise I had made to Alistair. A time before, when we were particularly wasted at another party, he had pleaded with me to fuck his arse. And I had declined because I was too high, it was time to go home, and the concept wasn't quite working for me. Despite this, I left with the promise that the next time around...
Next time around had arrived. The party had wound down, most people had left, and we were alone in the living room. As I recall, I had him on all fours on the floor, with a rubber-gloved, lubed finger in his arse, and a cock strapped to my groin. And this is how I began fucking him. "This isn't too bad," I thought to myself.
"This isn't too bad" isn't good enough, where sex and I are concerned.
And somewhere along the way, Alistair stopped me. He turned himself over so that he was laying on his back looking up at me. As I pushed inside of him, I could see the look in his eyes, see his lips move as a moan softly escaped them. As I lowered myself to kiss him, I felt his soft, naked flesh brush my breasts, and I felt enveloped in one of the most intimate experiences that one might have. There is something quite intoxicating about each little noise made by your lover as you slowly slide inside and out of them.
And I wondered, is this how it feels to fuck me like this? That night, I obviously did not learn what it was like to have a cock. But I did learn what it feels like to penetrate someone, to watch their face, their eyes change, to feel their legs wrap around my back. Being penetrated is qualitatively different to penetrating, and a person's reactions to one or the other follow this. And I liked swapping places with my lover. A lot.
Though we were not in love at the time, were high on MDMA and oxytocin, which amounted to a rather good simulation. So this is how I know that strapping on my harness is one of my very favourite ways to make love.
Whilst not completely opposed to the idea I personally think there is a distinction between fucking someone and making love - the key difference being the physical connection that I don't think can be replicated by an artificial cock. But until I try it, who am I to say?
ReplyDeleteFor me, what makes making love such a different creature to fucking is that which goes on inside the mind. It is there that the crucial connection takes place.
ReplyDeleteI agree Maisie- it doesn't matter if there are other tools used or if it doesn't actually involve intercourse.
ReplyDeleteas for anal sex (from the receiving point of view) face to face is the most intimate and the most comfortable- from behind is good if you kneel and put your hands on the wall and the pegger can be pressed up against you.
A penetrating post
ReplyDelete@Valerie: Hmmm, kneeling and hands on the wall... haven't tried. I must say that I am not usually too worried about comfort ;-) .
ReplyDelete@LERMONTOV: One tries, my darling, one tries.
I love this post Maisie! It was so honest, raw and beautifully written. I've always wondered what it would feel like to be the one doing the penetrating, and this was a really good insight. It sounded HOT and like it would be so much fun. While it's something I'll likely never get to try, it was so wonderful to live it vicariously through you, my darling lady. I'm curious though - do you think you'd be able to come if you were only doing it this way? Inquiring minds want to know!
ReplyDelete@Teacup: Thank you, my lovely. To be honest, I think I haven't quite captured the magic...
ReplyDeleteMaybe you will be able to try it someday. I have learned to never say never. You'd be surprised what a boy, or girl, will do in the right environment and with the right encouragement.
Also, good question. I have never reached orgasm like this, although the friction does feel pretty good, and mentally, I am totally in the zone. You can get double ended strap-ons, but we don't have one. However last year, Alistair did buy what could be described as a harness-free strap-on, in that one end is placed in the vagina, and the other bends out at a right angle, rather like an erect penis coming out of the woman's groin. Sadly I don't know what he did with it, and never got to try it.
So if you are reading this Alistair, find it, bring it, lie down.
ooh I've always wondered what this was like and have always wanted to try but alas I will never get the opportunity (Mr W will not let me depsite how many times I ask) but it was enjoyable to read your experience!
ReplyDeleteYou could always get him drunk... Glad you enjoyed the post.
ReplyDeleteI thought I would only hear conversations like this when I drive my taxi....blogging has stepped right into my backseat...NOT my "rear" seat.LOL
ReplyDeleteYes, I bet you hear some conversations... I know this to be true because lord knows I have had them in the back of many a black cab.
ReplyDeleteThis post was fucking fantastic. It was sexy and sweet and hot.
ReplyDelete@Sally-Sal: Thank you so much, Sally. I am glad you enjoyed it. I am off to a fetish club tonight, and hope to tell you all about it tomorrow.
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